Now I am going into year 11 and I have no stress until now. To think that high levels of children being sent to school are the beginnings of lockdown resistance from the working age population. This afternoon I am enduring soft play because I’m fed up of them trashing the house in the name of play. im a 27 year old mother of 1 boy. If they get down from table at meals just take food away-stay very calm and as matter of fact as possible- ‘we eat at the table in this house ..’ I find using ‘we’ helps rather than ‘you’.Routine is key. Dad can’t feed or dress himself anymore and he is frightened of taking a bath. And a hug - you sound despairing. If she carries on then I say "that's a 2". I'm very honest with my feelings yet he refuses or is incapable of seeing me. If she get a 3, she gets told "that's a 3" and goes to her room for a "calm down". I'm at my wits end with this stupid tinnitus in both ears. They should not be able to access anything messy/dangerous. In our house it seems their favourite game is emptying all of the toys and mixing them up together I to some mountain of toy hell. I made some dumb decisions in the past, and like many others got caught up with a violent boyfriend. A large chunk of the book is dedicated to positive parenting, as the other side of the coin to the discipline. Op, it's very normal, small dc are bloody hard work. Im really struggling and often feel like my only escape is to go to sleep and not wake up. Join the online community Community rules Coping during the Coronavirus outbreak, Hi, I'm wondering if anyone has any advice or coping methods on this? I wouldn’t confuse them by chopping and changing discipline methods like naughty steps or time out. Taking your life though wouldn't be an answer & even though you are not seeing your children at the moment you are still their Dad & at some stage I am sure you will get access again & they need to know their Dad is there for them so always think about that if you are feeling down . My 4.5yo is pushing all my buttons at the mo and my 2yo has hit the screaming tantrums stage. Take them out for physical play every day if possible. Thanks so much for your reply. * Do you have a GP you are comfortable with Whispa? I use to be good at things, now I can't even organise myself to clean the house, I stuff up everything I try, I get nervous, clumsy, panicky, angry over the tiniest things! I stay up til all hours at night just to 'keep alert' I jump at every noise, I check my son multiple times! If they scream and fuss tell them they must be tired and start bath/ bed routine.Lots of people have already recommended masses of exercise, so go to the park, take a picnic. You need to work on your confidence - it’s like officer training, you need to practice being in charge. I just don't understand why they are like this to me. It sounds really hard, and there is no one size fits all solution. i can't achieve anything anymore! Issues they may look at are: 1. Best of luck. Once they’re civilised, you can enjoy outings where they won’t disgrace you and cause havoc! Sounds like you need to practice being strict- for example if they try to walk around with food, take it away. I use to be good at things, now I can't even organise myself to clean the house, I stuff up everything I try, I get nervous, clumsy, panicky, angry over the tiniest things! She will often put a cd on or play with her dolls house. I've taken care of her everyday for well over 2 years now & in that time I've also cared for my dad for 9 months with lung cancer, at home, as that was his wish & lost him in August. I start questioning whether I am at some kind of fault. So im indoors alone with all 4 children a lot. via YouTube Capture. Save tv for when you are desperate-makes it more of a treat. I can’t stop it from coming back. It’s interesting that they behave for their dad, but not you. Never let the wee shits think they’ve got the upper hand. Things need to go back to basics with expectations and house rules. It's really helping here. Derbychick Posts: 554. I’m anemic so I just want to sleep all the time, but I can’t take my iron pills as I know they will upset my tummy further. I feel like I'm being firm but fair. I feel so confused most of the time but what he says to me. My poor mother is to the point that she won't even call me anymore, because all I talk about is babies. Do either of them normally go to nursery or pre-school? I can't cope with my life anymore, I want it all to go away. Also I avoid shops and crowded places at all costs. Really need some advice please because I'm not coping anymore I have tried and tried and I'm so tired now. Im seeing a counsellor at the moment for my anxiety and I have spoken to her about it but all I ever get is all kids are the same at this stage but surely that's not true. Put things away or try and get rid of anything you don’t need. i attempted a social outing today, unfortunately came head on with my boyfriends brothers girlfriends, who individually I get along great with, but when they are together one gets very possessive of the other and I'm clearly reminded 3 is a crowd but that's more about her insecurities so proud to say I actually didn't have a meltdown over that :)Â, I will try to take the pressure off myself somewhat, re establish some routine, and get a handle on things. However, please make sure you do it in a way that's best for him. Don't let them have access to toys which can be thrown around- just let them have ou t what they are actually playing with, and put it away as soon as they've finished with it. I'm struggling so bad I can't do it anymore I feel so upset, I'm constantly telling them I love them, I reward all good behaviour I try and take them out but even when I do that they run off or play up, if I take them supermarket they throw stuff on the floor and break it like melons and stuff, or they just rub away and hide in rails. My horses have been my only consistent through every bad patch of life and I don't want to give them up, but my nasty mind is almost sending me down that path as I'm such a failure with them.Â, I do not want medication, I don't feel that's the path for me at all, I just think I need some mind management teqniques until I can snap out of this 'patch" too.Â, Any suggestions or help would be amazing :(, I can relate to your symptoms...all of them..These symptoms 'feeling' are awful..the social anxiety too. You have 2 minutes left before being logged out. Craft, paper to rip and stick through times when yiu need to tell them off for inside damage.Run them in park for hours every day. My husband goes away a lot because he's in the armed forces, and I can't cope with being left alone with my two young sons. I know I did. And so much more, all due to my mind will not shut up! We don't call it a punishment, so in her room she can play or whatever she wants to do to calm down. I will keep this is point form Whispa...These work for some and maybe not for others... * Your mind is not nasty....its tired, the dreadful feelings you have are the sign of a tired and 'racing' mind, * This is the same as a physical injury...you cant 'snap out' having the flu...broken leg...infection...toothache, * Anxiety/Depression do release chemicals in the brain...physiological issue...the feelings are the end result. The only thing that helps me through the rock bottom times is my belief in angels, past on to me when i lost my mother in law. You may also cry more easily or … I spoke to my boyfriend about some of it earlier. Also divide and conquer-have one in trolley at supermarket, one in pushchair (take turns if nec). I feel so angry all the time and depressed. She wanted to agree, but in the end she's always going to take my dad's side because it's less exhausting. My two just do not behave at all they are naughty from the moment they wake up till bedtime I have tried cutting out sugar, star charts, separate bed times I don't know what to do anymore. sodrained Fri 09-Aug-19 14:42:34. My 10 year old is my daughter who is a mother hen. You need to establish control here as the adult. I was diagnosed with depression and anxiety, especially social anxiety, years ago but have always prided myself on a strong mind that could snap myself out of it, but now, it's making my life hell! If I clean one room they destroy something in another room, today for example I'm cleaning the kitchen they've poured cups of water into the sofa and emptied a potty on to it that was next on my list to empty. Do you have a routine? I just don't understand where I've gone wrong maybe over spoiled them I don't know. Be 'Kind' to yourself, you mind is still strong...just tired...like over revving an engine...pull back on the reigns.. Great start to healing by the way in having the courage to post. Whenever I fail to cope up any emotional turmoils, excessive pressure or conflict, I distract myself from everything with over sleeping and over eating. Take one swimming or something else you can enjoy together-they can be so much easier and much more fun 1-1-rediscover your joy with them.Do as much as you can online/while they are asleep. and if you can't even cope with it anymore that is a clear indication that this isn't a good situation to be in! Sign up below for regular emails filled with information, advice and support for you or your loved ones. Your child’s needs 2. I kept telling my mom "I can't do this anymore. Be 'kind' to yourself. I found having as little stuff out as possible for them to break or destroy. If they throw toys, take them away. I can’t go on anymore (please be aware of trigger warning) I’m so depressed. Meanwhile we knew my parents had gone to eat at a restaurant THIS SAME DAY. And consistency. And I was able to stay close to my friends and hang out with them regularly. I can’t stop being depressed. I structured the day when my DC were preschool, so they had a walk every morning, some active play with a ball or on trikes, story time on the sofa, a few board games, half an hour of tv or a children’s video, some craft time doing painting, crayoning or collage, and they helped with the chores. I can't cope with this pain anymore : ... over xmas now feel like child under constant supervision, but i know it's for my own good, just hate not being the mum in control. Wipe the slate clean, and start as you mean to go on...which I appreciate is easy to say when you are not overwhelmed (I empathise as I am too, just in a different way) The fact you are pregnant too, you really need some support for your physical and mental health too, @SweetAsSpice Hi thanks for the reply there is the kids are a lot better for him than me if he tells them to sit down and just eat there dinner they will, if I ask they walk around eating etc for example. It’s like a whirlwind has ripped through the place every evening and it’s tiresome! Can't think what it's called but you get someone who becomes a family friend basically and helps mums struggling with young children. Together they are a nightmare - sometimes they will play nicely but they also do all sorts of awful things. I’m 24 years old and a female. And once it's done, it's done, we don't talk about it again. I don't know if I'm a bit too hard on her sometimes because of my frustration and emotions that I can't seem to get control of. Please someone just listen to me for once. Great advice @Babdoc - I need to take a leaf out of your book! Il try keep my story brief (although might be hard given the way my mind is going!). If you see her/him minimum every two weeks... * GP's can be a huge help and venting would be great for you now, * the anxiety and depression do reduce in severity over time which is the good news..It takes time and effort tho, * If you can be kind to yourself...simplify your life and physically slow down....Think Slow Walk Slow Talk Slow, * Sleep...no ipads cellphones before bed..they only stimulate neural activity...they stimulate the mind...not good, *Sleep is an excellent healer and the building blocks to recovery. If he's a particular breed then try to rehome him through a breed specific rescue otherwise get in touch with a local rescue or one of the larger rescue groups. I am doing a Tafe course as well as my regular schooling, and I honestly can’t cope. I found a bath every night, then quiet time/stories etc calmed them down-and could also shorten the afternoon if bad weather! If, after talking to you about the problems you and your family are experiencing, the Social Worker decides that your child may be a “child in need”, they will carry out an assessment. Please help us improve the lives of people affected by anxiety, depression and suicide, Before you can post or reply in these forums, please complete your profile. I honestly don’t think I can cope anymore I’m so unhappy I feel ill everyday with upset stomach and or nausea. It might be totally different for you! All my friends are having babies or already have children. She has 4mins, one for every Yr of age. It’s homestart that supports families with under fives. I don't think tearing off the wallpaper, blocking the sink with paper and emptying a potty on the sofa is normal. Il work on that again. Well as the title says I cant cope with this life anymore. My two (3&5) drive me up the wall! AIBU reducing Grandparents' care 1x day a week whilst I'm on mat leave? He was great but it would take me all night to try get him to understand what I can't myself, but at least now he knows I'm not avoiding him at nights. 21 February 2016 However I came out of that with my son, and my life is now what you would call as close to perfect as could be. If you really can't cope with him and having him is affecting you badly then you need to re home him obviously.  It is an exhausting state of mind that's for sure as many know. This has been my entire life." But it will get better. He works 5 days a week morning to evening so time he gets in I've somehow managed to get them into bed so he doesn't see them as such. It's starting to upset my very caring boyfriend as he thinks I'm avoiding him. She does help me a fair bit when it comes to house work and the boys. In other words, keep the little...um...darlings too busy to get up to mischief! He should be a responsible man and look after you and his child! Find your inner supermum skills and take charge! I absolutely hate myself, and every inch of my looks and body, and try on about 15 outfits to go anywhere. However, after 5 years I can't suppress my physical and emotional needs anymore. I have a similar age gap and I've worked with pre-schoolers. Please select 'ok' to extend your session and prevent losing any content you are working on from being lost. Similarly with your husband. Signs to watch for are feeling panic at the slightest thing or feeling that if something else went wrong you either wouldn't cope or wouldn't care. It would be a respite for you and would do your children good to have to fit in with behavioural norms (it could also highlight any behavioural disorder). I barely cope with mine but what I do find helps is getting out every morning at 9 and heading to somewhere with open space - the woods is my favourite - for them to run around and explore. And there’ll be far less wreckage to clean at home. I think your health visitor would be able to put you in touch with something like the volunteering service that supports young families at home. They’ll not only trash the place, they’ll feel unhappy, insecure and out of control. my mind will not let me be happy! Firstly... sending hugs!! In fact You Could train them to use the toilet so no potty at all - though that's more of a long term plan. Talk widget showing discussions of the day & trending threads, Subscribe to Mumsnet emails direct to your inbox. The past week has just confirmed it for me. My children (now adults) were recently fondly reminiscing about the time I stopped the car and told them to get out and walk home if they couldn't behave in the back together. Try and tidy toys out of reach, then take one thing at a time out to play with (duplo/play food etc). He is 83 - some might say he's had a good innings, but he's still my Dad and I feel I can't make him smile any more. Be kind to yourself. I can't be sorry for her. Hi lost child, I do feel for you. She ate and drank whatever she wanted, didn't lose weight and missed doctors appointments. I get up after a bad night sleep get daughter off to school then I have to have a sit down and I am nodding off I am so tired. I also hide away from socialising with anyone other than my mother as I can't handle the slightest criticism. I find it really helpful to have a tight routine..doing similar tasks each day...what I mean is... breakfast...Having a wash...then straight to get dressed... Then whatever we are doing that day... Our mornings always start the same... Could you ask your husband to have a day off...so you can have some me time...it's important you deal with this together and you look after your own well being! God bless. Today I have turned my back on my mum because I can't cope anymore. I never needed to shout, either. If you believe in yourself, the DC will too. I used to book mine in for a few days a week in holiday to give myself a break (sahm).They obviously have basic understanding being so little, try and give structured 'destroying' time.. I just had a quiet menacing hiss, a death stare, and an air of uncontested authority! Types of things they do, in the fridge every second, ripping wallpaper off walls, being rude, breaking stuff, tipping all shower stuff away or filling sink with tissue and blocking the sink up, trashing there bedroom and won't help to put it back, hurt each other then they are best friends again, if I put one in time out the other will go over and set them off I just don't know what to do their dad works full time so it's just me. But then we let things slide and have to get back on it. I feel like I have failed as a mother and I don't know what to do anymore. Stay out as long as you can, then straight into winding down tidy/ tea/ bath / story / bed routine. We have! We're all clear on the rules, so I feel more in control. Please forgive the need to be anon. 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There are sadly a lot of people in the world who hurt others, seemingly more and more often, but there is no sense letting that dictate my life, deal with whatever as it comes.Â, Thanks for your response, best wishes to you and everyone on these forums having their own personal battles 👍🙂. I think they see you as a soft touch. Help! I've had a normal upbringing, no major dramas. I've ridden my whole life, now it seems every time I try to ride it all goes to hell, I know they feed off my emotion but it scares me as I feel I'm getting to a point I can't get myself back, and now I have this great horse and I can't seem to make things work. I’d spend much less time on cleaning, and more on activities to occupy the troops, improving their behaviour. I’ve been in bed most of sunday and most of today with an ongoing migraine which I know has been because of the stress of arguing. I am constantly nervous, heart racing, mood swings! This means a social worker will consider your child’s situation in more detail. I need a break, but don't know which way to turn. That way, they didn’t get bored and destructive. * Try to take your boyfriend to your GP with you..It will help him help you.. * Please avoid being 'busy' You can achieve the same results using half of the energy. My partner lives miles away from me and is only here 2 days a week, hes the father of my youngest and unborn child. He keeps everyone awake all the time and tonight because I told him to be quiet and go to sleep he screamed in his younger sleeping brothers face and threw a … I'm from the UK and don't no a single person with tinnitus so I feel all alone I wish I knew at least one person with tinnitus . Older child with issues causes conflict - can't cope anymore My ex husband and I adopted her when she was six months old. What has been tried before 4. I have no enjoyment, I cannot cope with my children and I can't see a way to get my … I feel so selfish and silly when I think about the way I … I'm so tired of fighting them it's making me wish I never became a parent I'm obviously not good enough. They obviously don’t respect your authority, OP. The awaken time I distract myself with internet. As you could then have some time for yourself and some one to one time with each child. I read a book called magic 123 a few months ago and it's been very helpful. I am the world's worst mum I just can't cope with my middle son anymore. I can't cope no more, I can't except it and never will.i wanna be like everyone else I find myself looking at people and just thiking bet she has peace and quiet. From a very early age it became clear that she was extremely jealous of any relationships I had with any of her friends. However!!! But no, it's because we love our friends but don't care about my parents. Sounds a nightmare, and being pregnant again you must be very tired.I had 3 children, and what 's coming across is that your home is not child proofed.You need child proof locks on everything - fridge, cupboards, doors. Can't cope with my children anymore (40 Posts) Add message | Report. It's the life she chose. This is page 1 of 2 (This thread has 40 messages.). When “I can’t” comes rushing out, it feel like the response to an accusation. I can't satisfy my needs while existing in this "world" he's created. Apparently it worked anyhow. Sooner or later, most of us who try to cope with depression feel so overwhelmed that all we can hold onto is: I just can’t do it. I can't cope anymore d I've had enough of everything, I'm currently 26 weeks pregnant and feel so alone all the time. I am sorry to hear about your horses too Whispa...Like these bad 'feelings' this is temporary...they will lessen over time with a regular visit to a GP or counselor. My Dad has been in an EMI unit for about the same time as yours. I cannot cope with my life. my partner either stays upstairs in bed all day or … Locks on cupboards etc-whatever makes life easier and stops them causing havoc. in response to your tips, I will definitely try to apply what I can and hope that it brings some relief. I have been able to do my school work to a better degree then I have before. Look after YOU first, and get him out of your life, unless he decided to get his act together. He has brought this upon himself. So no potty anywhere near the sofa - keep it in the bathroom. He's spiteful, demanding and just so hard to cope with. Try and do stuff with only 1 child -put the other into playgroup/leave with DH etc)-I found they were far less likely to run away on their own (far less brave!). Forum membership is open to anyone residing in Australia. Can't cope with my ADD/ODD child. I need a word. Don't be afraid to give them a sound bollocking - imo overly gentle parenting leads to poor behaviour later on in life in some cases (not a criticism, just an observation of the accepted current wisdom). Before you can post or reply in these forums, please join our online community. My niece also ignored all guidance when she was diagnosed with type 2. To what extent can you meet these needs 3. but most painful, I've lost my ability with my horses. You can do this, OP. Their reception teacher will thank you for sorting it before they hit the classroom- she’ll have enough feral kids to deal with. Stair gates on doors mean that it is harder for them to get into fridge or fill cups with water etc, also makes it easier for you to keep an eye on them. We also have a cat who he looks for in the house at least 3 times an hour and if he can’t find him it sends him into a blind panic - … I just feel like running away. It was a great year. To use this feature subscribe to Mumsnet Premium - get first access to new features see fewer ads, and support Mumsnet. Your session is about to expire. I am obsessed with the news, and all the murders and home invasions etc, that I am 90% of the time terrified of it happening! Husband's depression - I can't cope anymore Post by ajem » Thu Mar 09, 2017 5:59 pm My husband and I have been married for ten years, we have two children and for the last 7 years my husband has been battling with depression. My DD is 4 my DS is 3 and I'm 20 weeks with my third that I'm now regretting. But now she will take herself up. The second thing you need to do is to stop listening to everyone else telling you that you did this, that, or the other thing wrong. Forum Member. Sometimes, I feel the … I can’t cope with my health issues anymore and nobody can figure out what’s wrong. Your Housing and financial situation like are there benefits you are eligible f… I absolutely hate myself, and every inch of my looks and body, and try … She is now almost blind, is on dialysis and awaiting a kidney transplant. Do you have enough funds for childcare ? I’m a firm believer that the devil has work for idle hands to do. and even then, be sure he actually HAS. Yes I have fibro and expect to get tired but this is unreal. Getting support – how much does it cost? that is clear. I just can’t cope anymore. Remember all parents have things they struggle with, I found the toddler stage easy-teens not so much! I think most people must go through a stage of thinking "I can't cope anymore". I broke up with my partner of 4 years around the time she changed and I don't know if that is it, because I didn't think she even was that fond of him. The basic idea is as soon as Dd starts doing something i want her to stop, i say "that's a 1". It's gruelling and pushes every button.Is there any holiday clubs that working mums use near you? I will never abandon taking care of him-as I've told him. I do have a GP I find very good to talk to, unfortunately so does everyone else haha, so the wait to get in to him is rather long, and by the time my appointment rolls around I have got embarrassed and talk myself out of it. Really need some advice please because I'm not coping anymore I have tried and tried and I'm so tired now. i can't achieve anything anymore! I don’t know what to do. My son is a nightmare and I cannot cope: I can’t live with my 18 year old daughter anymore: Can't cope with 16 year old son anymore. Kids like boundaries, and the reassurance of an adult in control. I have not had a single day away from any of my children apart from when I had my youngest boy. To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account. If you don’t feel confident at first, fake it til you make it. Sounds tough. Staying in is a nightmare! I get no help from family at all I get no break unless they are at school which my DD doesn't start full time until late September so I'm hoping she improves then. I cant do this anymore, i have no motivation, depleated mentaly, always tired, my mind doesnt stop racing, I am diagnosed as depressed, i take 300mg of my medication a day, and somedays i go to 450mg, which numbs me down, but little less anxiuos, and feel clamer, I am stressed, it is impacting by work, no motovation. Babdoc that is great advice! @genie - Surestart, not available nationwide but worth a try OP. Some charities are offering mellow parenting courses to address this type of behaviour, help parents to cope, but really OP you must get HV support on this one. 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