When I started, the most urgent situation to fix was baby crying for 3-4 hours every night. I also read bringing up Bebe and thought it was great before I had kids. Zero. Yet even here we see posts about that and cheer it on as a positive thing. She seems so much happier now. A place for pregnant redditors, those who have been pregnant, those who wish to be in the future, and anyone who supports them. - You cracked a smile before coughing up some blood - "That's the first time you've said that to me. I feel like she's "learned the skill" of putting herself to sleep. She honestly didn’t really discuss this in the book other than observing that French women just seemed more chilled out during pregnancy. And I want to emphasize that it all comes down to personal choice—there are pros and cons to every decision here, and no single technique is right for everyone. Don't get me wrong, I did have some strong cravings that I really wanted to satisfy (and I did), but there weren't too many of those when thinking about the whole 8 months I was pregnant. The loss of control has been very difficult and I’m not surprised at all that some women try to control what they can. Anyway since French parents spend park time hanging out and drinking coffee, these sightings are hardly evidence of a hard working dad. [–]pmmeyourpetphoto [score hidden] 15 hours ago (1 child). After a few weeks, I felt like I had really locked down the "getting to sleep" issue. On Day 2, it worked for two naps. Then I had to keep her up a bit later (she wanted to go to sleep at 6pm)!. I also love ��� Baby cries for 3-4 hours at bedtime every night! The whole free daycare and preschool thing!! I never actually used the Ferber method of CIO! Small outerspace themed nursery - Old house, Better late than never. LO would still wake up about every 2 hours, wanting to nurse. Fatherly has it: advice, gear reviews & life tips. Why no sleep after your epidural? In the sense that I just don’t really see it as an experience I should be curating but moreso as a means to an end to get my baby. I decided that this was untenable, and things needed to change. But the French way did kind of resonate with me personally. Like: How dare you go grocery shopping in sweatpants, don’t you love your husband? I will not be feeding my kid anything that resembles a typical American kid’s diet. But Youmu and Reisen end up in battle. And I say that as a mom of twins...I just choose to prioritize looking and feeling my best over other things (say maybe doing the dishes), [–]ironbasementwizard [score hidden] 15 hours ago (1 child). I definitely didn't agree with the childbirth part or the "maintaining sex appeal for your husband" part, but a lot of the other stuff in the book was interesting :), [–]BButFirstCoffeeTeam Blue! No epidural for baby #2 was a very easy choice for me! I can really tell the difference when she's had an "off night" (and has woken up multiple times, needing to be bounced back to sleep), verses when she's slept through. I actually posted here, asking for help (Help! Then, I sit on the ground (out of sight) until she goes to sleep, so I can be there if she does get worked up and needs an additional 1-2 minutes of bouncing/shushing. Bringing up Bebe book My husband and I just started TTC so I���m planning to read a few pregnancy/parenting books. I actually really vibe with the “don’t rock the boat, just order off the menu” mentality, but I’m more about autonomy when it comes to giving birth. The book even includes statistics of how much housework/ childcare parents do in each country and the gender disparity was much worse in France. Ask maybedefinitely404 Anonymous gma ask Muppen draws It looks like bebe Virgil is shushing Patton Like No I'm not heavy quiet you xD Meanwhile Patton is struggling help him Had to compare to one of the lads instead of a random character~ Pat and bebe Virge would be quite similar in size xD Wouldn't stop him from trying to carry the bebe tho my subreddits. Baby cries for 3-4 hours at bedtime every night! However, I'm including it here because I know that a lot of people do really enjoy it, and I am glad I read it. I’m a FTM due this month, and own the book but haven’t read it yet. Then, I would try to put her down. Can we have the good food but not shame moms for keeping on baby weight? Of course, that’s rude to say to a patient and very jarring coming from an American perspective. I'm sure that some of the progress is due to her simply being older (5.5 months now, vs. 4 months at the beginning of this process). I don’t mean to be presumptuous as I said I’m not yet pregnant. But … you WILL receive unsolicited advice about how to prevent stretch marks and she thinks that is great too! The parts that resonated with me the most were the parts about food and respect. I eliminated hours of crying at bedtime by shifting baby's "sleep time" earlier by 15 minutes a day. Epidurals can be great, they can also slow down labour and lead to a higher number of interventions. I did more research, and I ended up with the following hypothesis: I decided that this problem was due to a "delayed sleep phase"--basically, baby was going to sleep too late, and sleeping in too late in the morning (after crying for several hours, she would pass out around 10pm and would wake up for the day around 9am). That was probably the one thing in the book that was just objectively better in France. Unlike parenting fads that come and go, this book will always be :). That being said... i don’t feel like American women ultimately care less than French women (French women according to the author of course) about what they look like during and after pregnancy. Look madam, that’s a damn lie. But it seems like French women simply dispel much of the guilt about baby weight by just not gaining too much in the first place.. whereas I feel like there’s an increasingly strong voice in American circles of the catch-all “you’re growing a human! I’m hoping to move around my room and try varying positions to maximize engagement, rotation, and FER during active and pushing phases. Ugh. They weren't that bad so I'm not super wed to going unmedicated, but your comment struck me as reasonable and objective (and not extreme) and I'd love to learn more!! [–]mera_aqua [score hidden] 14 hours ago (0 children), Perhaps a better way to have worded my thoughts rather than harp on the epidural is that I just don’t really have a birth plan the way many others seem to. in a way I can see how it must be easier for sure to just go with the flow along with everyone else! Sidenote: this technique actually worked too well, and she overshot the mark, haha. I’m not asking people to justify to me why they don’t want an epidural btw, just wondering if anyone else feels the same as me. The overt “do it for your husband!” messaging did rub me the wrong way in some parts but I feel like it’s more that putting in the effort to look good for your romantic partner often makes you feel good. ENDLESS BOUNCING (i.e. I saw this book was recommended and had been previously discussed on this sub, and I was intrigued by the discussions so I wanted to read it myself - I just finished it. However, I've had multiple nights where she's slept 8 hours in a row! On Night 2, baby girl could feed every 2.5 hours, and so on. WAKING TO EAT A BILLION TIMES A NIGHT (more or less). The warning against men looking at the vaginal area during birth was most problematic and misogynistic in my opinion. [–]lirulin17 [score hidden] 11 hours ago (0 children). [–]Allibob1 [score hidden] 14 hours ago (0 children). I heavily relied on three books when I was getting through this process: Solve Your Child's Sleep Problems by Richard Ferber: I loved the information on sleep in this book. Chua outlines the severe 'worse than helicopter mom' regime she imposed on her two daughters, Lulu and Sophia, to ensure their academic success, a strategy she ��� And if all you really care about is being safe, ie you don’t mind an episiotomy or ending a blood patch from a bad spinal (for example), I’d say you’re lucky honestly. This isn’t an angle I had considered before, but makes total sense! I used to live in France, and it's expected (and common) for babies to sleep through the night starting at a couple months. A new French parenting book, Bringing Up Bébé: One American Mother Discovers the Wisdom of French Parenting,' has recently caught fire in the ��� Anyone else? I do acknowledge that part of this is obviously luck but I also remained very active and really didn’t up my calories much at all. This whole process takes 5-10 minutes max. By DAY 3, she was going to sleep at 7:30pm, and we were down to only 30 minutes of crying before going to sleep! The dads in France are actually worse than the US though! Do what you want!” but then there’s still all of the guilt afterwards because it’s really hard to actually not care. That is the conclusion that readers may draw from Bringing Up Bébé.��� ��� The Wall Street Journal I'm glad to hear it before I-" - "Don't say it! If I were in the US, I probably would have gone the epidural route, too, but in Germany, its standard to labor with movement and let gravity help you get the baby out. I don’t disagree with you! [–]pockolate[S] [score hidden] 16 hours ago (4 children). So put on those skinny jeans, bitch, because … you will feel so much better looking beautiful again after having your baby!” . By Night 8, she seemed to be getting used to this new schedule. It all start from Yuyuko wanting to eat some bamboo shoot. I suppose the upside of a society that is very community-oriented is that while there are seemingly fewer choices, you won't be getting that same criticism. Middle class and lower class women overall will never have the opportunities to catch up to men if the burden keeps falling on them. A little crying/fussing is fine, because she's learning a new skill. She fussed for about 10 minutes before falling asleep. Medical professionals also face big consequences if you so much as slip while birthing in a squat (or whatever): it’s unfair to expect full flexibility from them while they assume so much risk. I think childbirth is one place where you need to be flexible but it’s absolutely ok to have preferences, and everyone should be educated on their options so they can advocate for themselves. I forgive her for focusing more on looks than I would, because I like the larger message that feels more empowering to women. I think that whether or not a woman chooses to work on her sex appeal is up to her, but it shouldn't be seen as a postpartum priority when there's typically so many other responsibilities and expectations thrust upon the woman. https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S2352013219301309. But I think the reason so many people sue is simply to pay their medical bills. [–]Allibob1 [score hidden] 17 hours ago (8 children), You can’t really imagine what it’s like to be giving birth and have zero control and at the mercy of the doctors on staff if you haven’t done it yet. I know that pregnancy is always uncomfortable, but you know what else is painful and exhausting? AITA for not breastfeeding my baby because she bites? "If your child needs socking, sock him! LO would cry for 3-4 hours every night before going to sleep for the night, required literal hours of bouncing/singing lullabies (for naps and bedtime), and was waking up about every 2 hours at night wanting to nurse. [–]sweettutu6421 | FTM | March 25 | [score hidden] 15 hours ago (0 children). America is litigious as fuck. The next thing I wanted to fix was the "staying asleep" problem. Definitely a good call to exercise moderation. Having had an epidural, there wasn’t any sleeping until time to push for me. and more power to them. The thing is, there are so many things about France that are great for parents, like the 16 weeks of maternity leave, subsidized daycare, and free pre-K. Like, can I have that stuff but without the deadbeat dads please? If she's awake in bed, but happy and quiet, I leave her alone. I got the impression that compared to the US, French women have to do more work and also look put together at the same time. Totally. He doesn’t pull his weight because he doesn’t want to and that’s that. It took about a week to fully equilibrate. Here it is for your enjoyment . I’d be curious if french society similarly wrests control away from parents so early. Emery Blue born 12/11/2020 at 9:36 am weighing 7 lbs 3 oz. Anyone else feel super lonely being pregnant during a pandemic? (This is noted in multiple sources, and here's an article that talks a bit about it). If she grumbled or soft cried, I would leave her. I’m almost done with Bringing Up Bebe, too—though I mostly was interested in parenting differences over birthing. Gonna stop now as this is really long winded, but curious what others who read the book think about it and also what I’ve said here. Think about it - why does no other country seem to have this problem? She definitely has learned other signal phrases though ("are you a hungry girl?" With Katharine Hepburn, Cary Grant, Charles Ruggles, Walter Catlett. That was the one bit of the book I definitely disagreed with and thought was out of touch, but overall, I liked the messages about how to raise a child to fit into the family, what things to be strict about and how to give them freedom within that structure as well. I feel more frustrated that she's just pointed out all of the structural differences in French vs American society that make it more difficult for an American woman to be supported to go back to work and be herself without sacrificing the care of her child or paying amounts that few can afford. So OBs are kind of forced to prioritize these other concerns outside of the labor and delivery aspect. At the end of the day, medical necessity will be prioritized over personal preference. I think medical advancements are amazing of course, but our bodies weren’t necessarily made to give birth on our backs or while completely numb; the French way of doing things is more for the convenience of the doctors. Bebe's style features a scoop neck, and you can snap up a similar version at Italist by clicking right. I saw this book was recommended and had been previously discussed on this sub, and I was intrigued by the discussions so I wanted to read it myself - I just finished it. When the New York Liberty signed Layshia Clarendon back in February, back when the world was a bit normal, she was seen as the back-up and mentor to Sabrina Ionescu and a ��� Like this compulsion to constantly customize your environment - definitely resonated with things I realize I do sometimes, and many of my peers here do to extremes (like the ordering off the menu thing... if I had a nickel for every time I was out to dinner with someone who needed to ask 100 questions and change out ingredients...). I started using a signal phrase: "it's sleepytime now. Like, I don’t care about how I give birth. I followed Ferber's technique of waking her up 15 minutes earlier every day, to try and shift her sleep schedule to be earlier. By Day 5, I was able to put her down drowsy but awake for pretty much all naps/bedtimes. While trying to secure a $1 million donation for his museum, a befuddled paleontologist is pursued by a flighty and often irritating heiress and ��� If she was actually crying (genuinely upset), I would pick her up and would try again. For that one nap, she low-level cried for 10 minutes before falling asleep on her own. On top of the lack of general social supports. It's time to go to sleep." I highly recommend reading this book, even if you have no intention of doing CIO, because of the great information. My only feedback to your comments on birthing position is that, as I understand, laboring on your back with legs spread will restrict movement of the sacrum and space in the pelvic outlet, thus decreasing opening for baby to rotate and exit. Reddit gives you the best of the internet in one place. It sucks that the system is so broken that hospital policy is written by lawyers. But to each their own! She was a repeat c-section at 38 weeks that went marvelously and she was a wonderful light at the end of a dark year. I also think sometimes women that are FTMs think xyz will be ok, but in retrospect, you can never truly know until you have had your birth. [score hidden] 15 hours ago (3 children). I feel like a loon, and I say it about a billion times before every nap and bedtime. I personally loved the book. Americans are actually better off in this respect. Don’t get me wrong, I did find the French attitude around birth rather austere and I do believe that women have the right to birth how they want and I appreciate that American healthcare seems to be much more open to that. Since Day 5, I've been able to put her down "drowsy but awake" for almost all naps and bedtimes. Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child by Marc Weissbluth: I read this book, based on many recommendations. Originally posted by peachu. REDDIT and the ALIEN Logo are registered trademarks of reddit inc. π Rendered by PID 21885 on r2-app-049f22e1912a286d5 at 2021-01-06 09:53:21.615990+00:00 running 15b6a67 country code: US. A great place to come for post-partum depression, breast or formula feeding issues, and body image. Congratulations on this working for you. Like, parents need to respect that their children are individuals who can control themselves, and kids need to respect that their parents are individuals who need grownup time. Anyway, I’m curious if you’ve done much research into different birthing techniques and preferences, or if you’re choosing an epidural and back labor because it’s the standard in the US? , [–]PootatoMama [score hidden] 15 hours ago (0 children), I read the book and enjoyed it (as an American no less). The hideous sight of you will offend all of France. I was going crazy. Like if you’re a woman who does value looking her best or looking a certain way, becoming a mom need not change that. But in the meantime, protecting the hospital from lawsuits is not the responsibility of the patient. Furthermore, according to both my pediatrician and modern research (Ferber talks about it in his book, for example), a four month old baby should only have to feed 1-2 times per night, and a five month old baby should only have to feed 0-1 times per night. If it wasn't working, I would just bounce her to sleep and try again the next nap. I actually laughed out loud at the quote from the doctor who was like “no this isn’t a circus or a zoo, you’ll give birth on your back like everyone else”. [–]yogurtnstuff [score hidden] 16 hours ago (2 children). !I love the big eyes! I just don’t want to feel pain and I want myself and my baby to be healthy. Our rainbow baby's nursery is complete @ 36 weeks! I still want my husband to want to have sex with me. I feel like if I continue to bounce her or interact with her, I'm getting in the way of her falling asleep. You're not going to die! It's important for her to learn that she can be safe and happy by herself (she doesn't need me there all the time). Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother (ISBN 9781594202841) is a book by Amy "Tiger Mom" Chua, a Chinese-American Professor of Law at Yale University (sorry Yale) who seeks to import the "Asian Tiger" economic model into parenting. I won't lie, this hasn't been the easiest process. Don't say that word!" ... Bebe is hands down the funniest character on the entire show. I feel like she's starting to learn it? Chuuya: - All he saw was red The book made me feel validated in still wanting to take time to care for me and look good. I don't think either are wrong or bad, but I am grateful to have options (and I'm sure those feelings are a direct product of our society and culture! [–]perditadolores [score hidden] 18 hours ago (3 children). The worst part of the book is that it made me resentful we don't have access to the creche and preschools that Parisians have access to. A native of Brittany, he���s describing my children as ���the mysterious French man���, but like me, he is a suburban dad here in Connecticut. while pregnant. I've lived in France before, but not as a mom, so this book was a great way to understand the different approaches to parenting. But I’m like, why do you need to walk around if you’re not feeling pain anyway? I sometimes joke that I would like to have a Queens birth , So when I read this book I wrote a novella-length response that I typed up but never posted. It just got me thinking that maybe the French approach is simply a more practical solution.. not necessarily “better” but kind of just taking the current beauty standards in stride and coping accordingly for their own sanity... if that makes sense? The second thing is some sort of performative martyrdom on behalf of women trying to win points for how devoted they are to motherhood which frankly just doesn't seem healthy for anyone. Please enjoy these two short videos of my daughter punching herself in the face and trying to walk up my uterine wall. Which leads me into her descriptions of their attitudes around birth. NTA based on title alone. On Day 3, it worked for three (of the four) naps, PLUS it worked for bedtime! Yeah right. TestaOnFire Reddit Profile (OverView), View TestaOnFire Comments and Posts.. Your body no longer feels like your own because it’s doing these crazy things, people’s ideas of personal space go out the fuckin window when you’re preggo, and as soon as you start announcing you realize that this little bean that barely even exists is already having mountains of expectation placed on them by the outside world. [–]ttcthrowaway2020 [score hidden] 4 hours ago (0 children). Not even because I believe they’re all automatically better approaches, but because they just encouraged me to not just take for granted all of the cultural norms and practices I’ve gotten used to. We should be honest and call the bad parts for what they are. [–]beetFarmingBachelor [score hidden] 12 hours ago (0 children). I also agree with the book on not rocking the bot too much on your birth strategy. ). So they push for a situation they can best control, because at least they are trained to address complications specifically from labor and delivery. We get a lot of that as expectant mothers in the US. Português: Tudo começa quando Yuyuko sente vontade de comer brotos de bambu. For example, I see many people concerned about the epidural because they want to be able to walk around. One. However, almost all the time I can put her down within five minutes, which feels like such a weight has been lifted compared to what it was like before. I still keep the sleep log, since it really helps me track her naps! :). I decided to follow the method in Ferber's book about reducing feeding at night. part of what comes from a very individualistic society is differing opinions being thrown at you from all angles. Excuse the repetition of bringing this up again but was hoping to see if anyone out there agrees with my personal takeaway building on previous feedback I’ve seen on this sub. You may not think you’d do that, but plenty of people would. On the blank scientific face of it, there���s not much more to say about the subject. I happen to live in a New York City neighborhood that���s home to a number of French families. I always make sure I shower and I do my hair and make up nearly every day if I can. Yep you heard it here moms, the secret to being as happy as the French is to accept that even though you and your husband work full time, you’ll be doing twice as much house work for the next 18 years and you should just decide this fact makes you happy actually. I’m an American parent through and through, apparently. I know there was a bunch of criticism of the attitudes concerning birth and women’s appearance during pregnancy and after giving birth. So to convince us how great childbirth is in France, the author tells an anecdote about a doctor who is an arrogant bastard with no respect for patient autonomy. [score hidden] 1 hour ago (0 children), the French way of doing things is more for the convenience of the doctors. If it didn't work for one nap, no worries! Especially as a millennial woman living in NYC, a lot of what she referenced to REALLY hit home for me and I think she articulated it so well. ": How reading about ��� https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S2352013219301309, Epidurals, lying down delivery, have their place but they should be for the mother's benefit, not the doctors, [–]Cassiebo123 [score hidden] 14 hours ago (1 child). You can read 100 stories here where the medical team coerces mom into getting pitocin, tells her lie in the bed for hours at a time, does cervical checks without consent, and so on. [–]talkytalkytime [score hidden] 11 hours ago (0 children). About a month and a half ago, I was in baby sleep hell. All link posts must include content from the OP in the form of a comment. And I believe the American pressure for women to silently suffer even to the point of psychosis is something that should be called out and that mothers should be encouraged to strike the right balance between being themselves/happy and doing what is best for the child. She is probably cleaning the entire house while the kids are gone. American ex-pat and writer, Pamela Druckerman, famous for her bestseller Bringing . . This problem was pretty much gone by Day 3, and 100% gone after a week. I am first trimester, don’t have a birth plan at this point except for some vague ideas, but I will say, one of the hardest things about pregnancy so far has been the loss of control. What that French doctor said about “giving birth on your back with your legs open” .. sounds really okay to me. It’s like how you HAVE to leave the hospital in a wheelchair, even if you can walk completely fine, because they don’t want you to sue them if you trip and fall. And the quality of the care providers when it's a respected, well-paid profession... [–]pockolate[S] [score hidden] 16 hours ago (0 children). I dunno. This weekend I met my friend Samuel at the park. [–]lirulin17 [score hidden] 16 hours ago* (3 children). I'm also a big believer that if a woman wants to work on her sex appeal it should be for herself (because it makes her feel better/more confident etc), not because she feels she owes it to other people, including her husband. 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